Resolve conflicts actively!
Mediation offers all parties involved in conflicts the chance to achieve which is most important to you.
Legen wir los!Relationship Mediation
Rainbow Family Mediation
Inheritance mediation
Create space to resolve conflicts
Relationship Conflicts
between 2 and more people
Family conflicts
Parents/Children/Siblings/Coming Out/Caring for Dependents
Inheritance disputes
Division of inheritance during lifetime Substitution of inheritance after death
What do I gain from Mediation?
Get the view clear again
for the beautiful things in life by finally resolving an annoying conflict with others.
Find out what is really important to you
and do achieve this in mediation. This is worth much more than getting "justice" from a judge.
Quick and cheaper than with a lawyer
and find a solution to your conflict through mediation without the agonizing wait for a court date. A neutral partner at your side, who ensure
A neutral partner at your side,
who ensures that all parties to the conflict are heard, thus creating a space for a solution that everyone can live with.
What mediation can do
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"I imagined our life together to be so beautiful, and now we're constantly fighting over little things!"
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"My ex and I will probably lose sight of each other quickly now that we've separated. But until I find my own apartment, we still have to put up with each other. After the mediation, I now at least have the feeling that everything has been said and settled for the course of the separation. Since then, everyday life is a little easier again and we don't have to keep avoiding each other."
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"It really wasn't fun for either of us to spend time together anymore. In mediation, we realized how much we had hurt each other over the years. It was difficult to express one's own point of view and also not easy to understand the other. But after that was out, we managed to make new agreements for the future."
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"My colleagues and I will certainly no longer be best friends, but everyday life at work has been much better since the mediation."
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"I had hardly any contact with my biological family for a long time. Through mediation, I was finally able to clarify our relationship."
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"We had discussed everything before the sperm donation and all three of us agreed on what everyday life with a child should look like. We wanted to meet regularly to grow together as a rainbow family. Since our child is now here, everything should suddenly be different. The mediation helped us to calm down the constant quarrels and to agree on who may or must do what and when."
Find ways
Procedure
of conflict resolution by mediation
Looking forward
by resolving conflicts
Gain
time and energy
by bringing conflicts to resolution
1
Free case assessment (30 minutes)
In a free initial meeting, we will clarify whether mediation makes sense in your case. You will find out what the process might look like and what costs the parties would have to share. Your legal expenses insurance may also cover the costs.
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Implementation of mediation
The parties to the conflict go through the process of mediation, in which all parties are heard and all relevant issues are dealt with.
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Make agreement
Mediation is successful when it produces an outcome that all parties can live with.
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Look ahead
With the end of the mediation and the fulfillment of the agreement reached, everyone's view of the future is free and a little more lighthearted. Even a mediation that ends without an agreement can mean progress for the conflict.
About me
- My name is Wolfgang Bißdorf, I am a trained mediator, business economist and adult educator. Since 2013 I live in Berlin with my longtime partner and husband.
- What do I bring to the table?
I have been working in a human resources department for many years, i.e. for and with diverse people. In addition to my job, my training as a mediator has opened the door even wider to a field of activity that has always meant a lot to me: fair dealings with each other, appropriate and sustainable resolution of conflicts that give all parties the opportunity not to leave the conflict as losers in order to enable a balanced coexistence. - Why Queer Mediation?
I am familiar with the facets of the queer scene and I am aware that concepts of life have changed over the years: from the illegality of §175 to today’s marriage for all. In the process, each generation has had and continues to have its own conflicts within partnerships, with their own families, their partners’ families, and other people who have played a role in their lives. Of course, there are also other life/love concepts, which can also include more than 2 people.
Absolute confidentiality and unconditional understanding of your life situation are the basis with which you let me participate in your life for a short time during mediation.
"A good argument ends with an agreement - not a victory!"
Voltaire 1694 - 1778
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (FAQ)
and their answers
Some of your questions may already be answered here. If you have further questions, just send me a message:
Why Mediation?
When emotions run high, it is often no longer possible to see solutions that would also be acceptable to the other party. The possible course to a lawyer is time-consuming, expensive and protracted. Often this formal way even worsens the problem instead of leading to a solution.
Mediation gives the conflicting parties the space and time to find solutions that are acceptable to all parties. The solutions are usually better and in any case faster to reach than through lawyers and judges.
What is the process of mediation?
Mediation gives the conflicting parties the space and time to name the conflicts and issues to be resolved and finally to work out the solutions. As a mediator, I am impartial in this process. This means that I make sure that all parties are heard and that their ideas for a solution can be incorporated. Mediation knows no winners and losers. In the best case, the process leads to an amicable solution that everyone can live with. Even if no solution to the conflict is agreed in the mediation itself, the process can be an important step towards a solution in the future.
I was asked if I would participate in mediation.
Why should I even consider it?
In answering this question for yourself, ask yourself what you have to lose or gain by resolving the conflict? How great is the emotional burden of the conflict on you and those around you? What would your life look like after a resolution of the conflict?
How long does mediation take? What does mediation cost?
These questions can not be answered without knowledge of the conflict. There are situations when one session with the duration of 2-3 hours is sufficient. This is especially possible with conflicts that are not too complex or with people who already have experience with mediation. The more people are involved or the more hardened the current positions, the more time is needed to find possible solutions. As an orientation one can basically say that the involvement of a lawyer is associated with a multiple of costs. If you have legal protection insurance, it may cover the costs of mediation. Or in other words: the earlier you solve the conflict with the help of a mediator, the easier and cheaper it can be.
Who bears the costs of a mediation?
The costs of mediation should be shared equally among the parties, as a solution should also reflect the interests of all parties involved. If a different division is desired due to differences in income, it is recommended that each party make an appropriate contribution to the total costs. If you have legal expenses insurance, it may cover the costs of mediation.
If you are a holder of a BerlinPass or a Sozialpass from another city, let’s talk about how you can get support through mediation.
Do you have to meet in person for mediation, or can it be done online?
Online mediation gives you easy access to Queer Mediation, even if you and the other parties to the conflict do not live in Berlin.
Let us talk about your situation and we will find the best approach for your conflict. There are certain conflict situations for which online mediation is not recommended and will then not be offered by me. In principle, mediation is also possible online. Like everything in life, a digital format has advantages, disadvantages and also limitations. A big advantage is the spatial flexibility, a big disadvantage is the physical distance.
Queer Mediation
The more diverse the lifestyles and identities, the more diverse the conflicts. Things are not going well at work because your colleagues behave disrespectfully or even inconsiderately towards you as a queer person? In your partnership you argue more than you enjoy the time together? Your (chosen) family is just exhausting since a new person has joined - although you still want to spend time with them all?
Isn't it relieving to be able to trust that the mediating person knows the queer forms of coexistence in their manifold manifestations and will accept them unconditionally and without prejudice in any case?
As diverse as life and love are the possibilities for conflict. and not least the celebrated "marriage for all" also brings "divorce for all". But regardless of whether you are in a live-in, live-out, open, closed, state-recognized or undocumented relationship: If you want to focus on the beautiful things in life again and resolve conflicts through conversation, mediation is right for you/you.
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